Women of Influence Award

What a fabulous turnout it was to celebrate the achievements of our very own Jill Alexander and the founder of Indigo kids, Sarah Seaton. Over 100 people attended, including the Mayor of Gedling Borough Council, Bob Collis and Chief Executive of Nottinghamshire Community Foundation, Nina Dauban. Both ‘Women of Influence’ received a cut glass paperweight and a hefty cheque in support of their charities. We would like to thank Carol Parkinson and Nina Dauban for their tireless work in organising such a fantastic and worthwhile event.

The work of our unpaid staff is absolutely vital to the work we do and really would be impossible without people like Jill, Liz Thomas and Olivia Astin to name but a few. Thank you ladies, you are all our Women of Influence!

S.H.E. UK Christmas Meal

We had a lovely time at our inaugural S.H.E. UK Christmas meal with lots of festive cheer and a rather nice meal at the Sir John Arderne Pub in Newark. Of course, there have been lots of lovely Christmasses in the past with the S.H.E team, but this was our first as S.H.E. UK.

Our Annual General Meeting 2013

Lessons from Geese Flying in Formation

As each goose flaps its wings, it creates “uplift” for the birds that follow. By flying in a “V” formation, the whole flock add 71% extra flying range.

Lesson: People who share a sense of community can help each other get where they are going more easily … because they are travelling on the trust of one another.

When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of flying alone. It quickly moves back to take advantage of the lifting power of the birds in front.

Lesson: If we have as much sense as the geese, we stay in formation with those who are headed where we want to go.  We are willing to accept their help and give our help to others.

When the lead goose tires, it drops back into the formation and another goose flies to the first position.

Lesson: It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks. We should respect and protect each other’s unique arrangement of skills, capabilities, talents and resources.

When the geese fly in formation, they honk to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.

Lesson: We need to make sure our honking is encouraging. In groups where there is encouragement, production is much greater. Individual empowerment results from quality honking.

When a goose gets sick, two geese drop out of the formation and follow it down to help and protect it.

Lesson: If we have as much sense as geese, we will stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we are strong.


The S.H.E. UK Drop-ins that facilitated this tree, meet in Worksop and Retford on Friday mornings and afternoons respectively. We meet together to encourage each other, to socialise, to learn to trust and form friendships and to access therapy towards our healing.

In line with our aims, and following the goose model, other S.H.E. members are represented on the tree: some of them from groups in Mansfield and Newark who have helped us to achieve this aim. The goose model underpins our very structure and is often used in group therapy sessions to enable us to honk and work together better towards healing. We also have members who are unable to access the groups.  They are still very much part of the formation. If you need help healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse or know someone who does, get in touch … there is always room in the “V” for others.

Thank you for reading.

A look at our drop-in sessions

Our 1st Away Day in November 2013