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New charity for male sex abuse victims launches in Mansfield

Launch MENding UK

Nicci Robinson, (right) with Roger Garrett, charity steward, from the Provincial Grand Lodge of Nottinghamshire (second right) and members, workers and volunteers at MENding UK.

MENding UK opened last week at an event at its office on Byron Street, Mansfield. The charity was launched due to the lack of services for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence – both recent and historic. This comes after it was discovered that around 1 in 7 men have sustained some form of sexual abuse before the age of 16.

MENding UK will operate under the umbrella of its sister charity S.H.E. UK, which offers a similar service for women. It is only the second charity of this type in the whole county.

Nicci Robinson, chief executive of both charities, said: “It has been a long held ambition of the trustees of the charity to develop a similar service for male survivors. There’s very little for female survivors but even less for male survivors. But it’s harder for men to come out and declare themselves as victims because of social pressures. There is a feeling of failure and shame.”

Services will be provided by health professionals and trained specialists.

Users can contact the charity directly or may also be referred through professionals such as doctors, social workers or the police force. MENding can provide therapy, peer support groups, creative therapies and adult learning groups to help victims overcome what has happened to them.

Nicci added: “This type of abuse really does destroy lives. It’s very difficult, emotional work and my staff have to be particularly emotionally resilient to go with the day-to-day running of these services. But when a member comes in and is in a really bad place and months later we have helped them to improve, that is really powerful stuff.”

The charity has also got a new angle on connecting with their users – through the use of Facebook. They launched this digital service with S.H.E UK in 2013 and Nicci says it has helped them save lives.

She said: “It’s a good point of contact for some people who might find talking face-to-face or on the phone difficult. Over a keyboard is sometimes easier.”

The biggest funders of the new charity are Nottinghamshire Freemasons, with a grant of £1800, and the Thomas Farr charity have also contributed.

 

The original version of this article was published in the Mansfield Chad and can be accessed here.

Nottingham Pair Skydive for Charity that Offers Support to Survivors of Sexual Abuse

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By Harry Briggs, Nottingham Post, Posted: June 06, 2015

A Nottingham pair will take part in a skydive to raise money for a local charity that offers support to survivors of sexual abuse, writes Harry Briggs.

Rachael Cumberland and Declan Bell are raising money for S.H.E. UK, whose initials stand for supporting, healing and educating. Rachel has worked for the charity for two years.

With just over a month to go before the jump in Langar, the pair are trying to drum up support for the daredevil feat.

Twenty-nine-year-old Rachael, of Fernwood, Newark, said: “I’ve always wanted to do a skydive and I’m turning 30 this year, so that played a part. I’m nervous but it will make it all worthwhile doing it for such a good charity. We would like to raise £500 between us but any amount raised is great.”

She has already taken part in several fundraisers for the charity and has also spent time raising cash for Help for Heroes.

Declan, 24, lives in Sneinton.

S.H.E. UK is based at the Garden Street Family Centre in Radford. It was set up in 1998.

People can contact the charity via its website www.she-uk.org.uk or by telephoning 01623622916.

To read the original article click http://www.nottinghampost.com/Pair-Sky-dive-charity/story-26643775-detail/story.html#ixzz3dQQYAwnu

Charity is helping sex abuse victims

By Nottingham Post  |  Posted: September 13, 2014

SURVIVORS of child sexual abuse in Nottingham are being offered support through a new charity centre in Radford.

SHE UK has launched a drop-in service at Garden Street Children’s Centre for adults who have been through the ordeal.

It also wants professionals in Nottingham who deal with the cases to know they can refer people to them or contact them for advice. SHE UK has drop-in services in Mansfield, Worksop and Newark but wanted to bring the opportunity to people in the city. Nicci Robinson, chief executive of SHE UK, said: “The prevalence of childhood sexual abuse and exploitation is endemic across the whole of the UK and, indeed, the world.

“The recent release of the extensive abuse cases in Rotherham is the latest in an ever-increasing catalogue of a persistent failure to protect our most vulnerable: our children and young people. Moving into Nottingham was a logical and absolutely necessary step.

“It is imperative that we reach as many victims as possible, empowering them to thrive rather than just survive, to reclaim the positive life experience that has been so cruelly denied them.”

The drop-in service will be open every Friday between 10 and 3pm, and is confidential.

The organisation runs survivor-led support groups, counselling and crisis support, arts and crafts workshops, fundraising and social activities.

Call SHE UK on 01623 622916 or visit its website at www.she-uk.org.uk.

(This article was published in the Nottingham post. To read the original article please click here.)

S.H.E. UK Headquarters is moving to Mansfield

Exciting times at S.H.E. UK! It’s nearly time to move to our new headquarters at Mansfield. Thanks to our vigilant CEO, Nicci, who spotted this amazing property we will be moving into this new space that is 3 times the space for only 2/3 the rent we’re paying now. An opportunity that was too good to pass up on.

The new space will immediately provide two dedicated therapy rooms – no more need to turf out staff from their offices. There are rooms for meetings and drop-ins as well as training space and hot desk possibilities. And there is even the potential for a charity shop and a café at the front of the building. In time we’ll be able to do it all and create the S.H.E. UK we’re all aiming for. And Nicci is very happy about getting her executive suite in the loft space. 🙂

counselling rooms

This move would not have been possible without some serious outside help. We would like to say a great big Thank You to the following organisations:

  • The Freemasons for pledging £2,000 for building works so that we can adapt the existing space exactly to our needs.

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  • The Mansfield Lions for donating £1,150 for furnishings (carpets, chairs, tables, etc.). More photos of all those to follow soon.
  • Mansfield based Zumba Instructor Vicky Kennedy for organising a Zumbathon at the beginning of March – she raised over £1,000 to help our move.
  • And last but not least: Mansfield Van Hire for providing us with a van for the move for free.

Thanks guys, we couldn’t have done it without you!

We have set the Grand Opening Day as Saturday, 3rd May 2014 and we hope that many of you can make it. We would love to have you there to help us celebrate our – your new space.

S.H.E. UK Trainee Counsellor races for charity

Our very own Rachael Cumberland is doing a race for charity. She will be running the Lincoln 10k on Sunday, 6th April 2014 for  S.H.E. UK and it would be great if you could sponsor her for this worthy cause.

The website is localgiving.com/charity/she-uk and any amount will be most gratefully received.

Rachael has been training tirelessly and is looking forward to making a difference. Let’s just cross fingers for her for good weather!

In her own words:
“I’m doing the fund raising because I am so passionate about helping victims of childhood sexual abuse, who have suffered beyond all imagination. I want to help make a stand and show our members that there are people who do care.”

Rachael is also intending to run more 10k races this year to raise as much for S.H.E. UK as she possibly can.

Rachael, you’re a star! x

Nottingham’s Women of Influence honoured at ceremony

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This article appeared in the Nottingham Post on 26th January 2014, after the Nottingham Women of Influence Award Ceremony. Here is an excerpt from it. If you would like to read the whole article, please click on the link at the end of the story.

“An award also went to Jill Alexander for the voluntary work she does with Survivors Helping Each Other (SHE UK), a charity in Newark which takes a holistic approach to helping women subjected to childhood sexual abuse.

Jill, who was abused herself, talks with the women but some are too afraid to come forward, so she set up a Facebook page for those who prefer to seek help anonymously. She also runs the charity’s crisis intervention service.

Her achievement is all the more remarkable because Jill suffers from painful rheumatoid and osteoarthritis and uses a wheelchair. After being presented with £2,500, Jill said: “I am overwhelmed by all of this. It has blown me away.”

The cash will be invested in developing digital therapy to help women as far away as Scotland. Her son Neil joined her at the ceremony along with SHE UK chief executive Nicci Robinson, who nominated her.

“Jill is an amazing woman and that is one of the many reasons I wanted that recognition. She does not realise the difference she makes to so many women,” said Nicci.

Carol Parkinson, Women of Influence co-ordinator, described the winners’ stories as inspirational and emotional.”

Jill Alexander wins Women of Influence Award

Jill Alexander, one of our valued Therapeutic Facilitators and Trustees, has won the coveted Women of Influence Award

Every year, the Nottinghamshire Community Foundation chooses two women in Nottinghamshire who can demonstrate, that on a voluntary basis they have and are making a significant difference to their local communities. This year, our very own Jill Alexander is one of those women.

We nominated Jill because she is one of our most devoted members of staff who, for the last 10 years, has been an integral part of our efforts to help survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Despite her fight with rheumatoid arthritis and osteoarthritis, which would stop most people from taking part in a normal active life, she delivers a weekly creative therapy course at our Newark base, working with 10 women to find more positive ways of self-expression and creative methods to articulate feelings, emotions and experiences (directing them away from self-harm or substance abuses). She provides face-to-face crisis and 1-to-1 therapy with up to 12 members weekly to help them cope with and work through the devastating long term effects of childhood sexual abuse, with the ultimate aim of recovery from this trauma. She provides daily support to a greater number of members through the relatively new development of our Facebook page – this affords our members with invaluable contact over and above the face-to-face work, and allows her to interact with members who find it difficult to access our services and/or are not ready to leave their home. She is also a member of our trustee board, working to safeguard our crucial services and guarantee the continuation of our charity. In short, she is unswervingly motivated to give her mind and soul to help women who have suffered unconscionable abuses of trust and is devoted in her pledge to do so for the foreseeable future.

Over the years, Jill has positively affected the lives of hundreds of victims of childhood sexual abuse. We are so very happy that the awarding body is recognising Jill’s selfless contributions and are looking forward to the Award Ceremony Dinner in January.

The award also comes with a cheque for £2,500 which we will be able to put towards a long list of items to improve the services we provide to survivors in Nottinghamshire. This includes digital tools for creative therapy as well as training courses and travel costs for Jill. We are looking forward to being able to help even more survivors this way.

What We Do – Personal Development Therapy

We’re starting off our website updates with a look into Personal Development Therapy:

S.H.E continue to offer personal development therapy groups which can also be taken up on a one to one basis and/or in small groups.

Personal development within a therapeutic environment is about enabling trust, safety, confidence and self awareness. It offers the ability to learn practical coping mechanisms for people who have experienced trauma and can be a pathway for accessing other SHE activities if appropriate.

Here are some of the fantastic comments we have received:

“I feel able to trust again”

“Life changing”

“I feel stronger”

“It’s made me more confident”

“It’s improved my relationships with others”

“I feel like I have a voice”

This service is available in Mansfield, Worksop and Newark.

If you would like find out more about this particular service by calling 01636 611107 or emailing Janice at janice.frisby@she-uk.org.uk

Welcome to SHE

This is a placeholder post while we work on getting the new website up and running!

If you’d like to know more about SHE, please get in touch with us!

Address:
S.H.E.
1 Magnus Street
Newark Upon Trent
Nottinghamshire
NG24 1JX

Telephone:
01636 611107

Email:
info@she-uk.org.uk